No More Ego-Crushing,
Zero-sum struggling for him...
Mike...
After 15-odd years of dating experience, your book brought to my
attention concepts I had as-of-yet only intuitively grasped from
merciless beatings in the dating jungle!
You're absolutely right though... a man's inner game is central to
everything. Until you are ready to drop the bitterness, resentment
and self pity -- and emotionally accept your role as a
dominant man in the world of women -- you are toast, PERIOD.
Even
if you happen to be a Tom Cruise look-alike!
Your book has put me on firmer ground and is helping me take my game
to a level where it truly is just that - an enjoyable game instead
of an ego-crushing, zero-sum struggle. Thanks much!
--
Grant
Vancouver, Canada
It should get 6 stars!
Since I'm not shy, I had some doubts about whether
this book would be helpful to me, because the title implied it was
geared towards shy people. Actually the book helps one
develop charisma and the personality type that
attracts women as well as friends. "Attitude" entails more
than self confidence, and Mike shows you how to be the kind of
person who people enjoy having around.
The book is very honest, almost brutally so. The author
doesn't brag about his conquests, but admits his failures and shows
you how he dealt with them.
The book is huge and has a lot of information and detail.
I went to an all-boys high school so I did not get a chance to learn
any dating skills or how to deal with the opposite sex, so I
did find the book especially useful in improving my social skills.
I've read it twice already because there is so much to absorb!
You look up and see a girl. She's your type. You lock
eyes for a moment, frozen... like a pair of deer caught in each
other's headlights. What do you do? What do you say?
You're vaguely aware that there's a play possible here, but you're
unable to speak a word.
Seconds grind by like hours. She acknowledges you --
there's a mild curiosity in her eyes... waiting. But you are
rooted to the floor, mute. You can feel the moment gurgling
away like water down a sewer. Something distracts her, she
looks away… the train pulls out; she gets into a cab; the bell for
class rings. The moment vanishes like a ghost as if it
had never existed in the first place. But you will see
it over and over again in your mind won't you? Re-run a
thousand times... fast forward, pause, reverse and slo-mo...
If you've ever known the agony of watching a chance encounter ripe
with romantic possibility slip away while you stood by helplessly
and watched, then you know all about the lowest moment in a man's
life. This fearful self cock-blocking is a major
lifestyle problem which leaves otherwise capable and confident men
socially dead in the water. How can we manipulate the
stock market to our advantage like ruthless sharks or baby down a 20
ton jetliner to a gentle landing with ease, but still manage to
meltdown into a blob of blubbering baby-boys in the presence of some
foxy chick?
Well, it happens because this particular and very powerful brand of
fear is really a protective response to a deeply buried sense of
shame.
That's right, by far the most devastating handicap that you can have
when it comes to meeting women is what I call shame-bound affection
needs. Lacking the ability to accept the natural and
normal desire to have people love you can also make it impossible to
exhibit romantic interest towards others. Why?
Because showing off such interest exposes what has come to be viewed
by yourself as a shameful emotion – and after a while, this
shame retreats into a protective shell of fear in order to keep
itself from being revealed. See, the mind shields itself
from having a painful emotion provoked by blocking you from taking
what it views as certain risky "triggering" behaviors.
The truly evil part about all this though is how it sets itself up
on
the sly over the course of years.
You may know that shame
and fear are your familiar companions today, but how many of you can
actually trace how they got there?
Now, you may think that it's not really so bad to be ashamed to show
your interest in women because then you're coming off as cool,
right? While there's some argument to be made that aloof
is better than nervous and goofy, your act is transparent and you're
likely being seen by most women as a shy, low status male anyway.
Don't ask me how, but women can smell the difference.
High status males demonstrate an interest in women who happen to
catch their fancy (appropriate or otherwise), whereas low status
males usually do not.
So your inability to take action immediately stamps you in a negative light...
like
it or not!
This sad state of affairs exists because low status males have been
conditioned by other males (who dominate them in so many other
aspects of their life) not to look at "their" women!
Sounds crazy, but it's true.
So you see, your shame-driven behaviors are always on exhibit and
most likely they are a brew of social hemlock for you.
It's not merely that you have an inability to express a certain type
of emotion because it's been shamed (i.e., affection) – it turns out that
this particular emotion is one that's absolutely critical to be able
to demonstrate in the presence of women!
For a guy, this situation is similar to a woman who is ashamed to
get a new hairstyle, put on makeup or keep her body in shape.
The result of this kind of shame would be to eventually make her
unattractive to most members of the opposite sex, right? Having her
visual presentation as a female shame-bound would therefore be the
most life damaging "flavor" of female shame
imaginable because of the resulting loneliness and isolation it
would create in her life.
In a similar way, affection-based shame in men makes them appear
weak and unattractive to females, so this is the worst type of
emotion to have shame-bound for us. Men will attempt to
compensate for the pain created by living in this emotional vacuum
with various chemical addictions or other crazy behaviors, but
they'll only end up digging a deeper hole for themselves as their
personality becomes increasingly more bizarre in the absence of
normal love and affection.
Understanding and then controlling the shame / fear
Beast is
essential to establishing a functioning social life – nothing less
will do!
The most important skill any man can possess is the ability to
know when and how to approach a woman with romantic intent.
Humans negotiate closeness with conversation -- both verbal and
especially non-verbal. You must know how to display
courage and connectedness in order to capture the romantic interest
of women, or you are broadcasting on the wrong frequency.
My social cowards method for attracting women is not some silly
bag of "pick-up-chicks-with-hypno-tricks" or a frantic game that
expects you to play the numbers by hitting on every female in sight.
Without Embarrassment will teach you how to develop a
gentle, seductive intelligence that an amazing number of women (some
that you would never expect ) find absolutely charming!
Hello Mike,
I ordered your online book "Without Embarrassment" yesterday
and I have gotten about half-way through it. My reaction so far can be summed up in two words... Holy Shit!...
While reading the part on toxic shame, I couldn't believe how well
what you wrote describes me. I was shocked! It was as though you
hired a couple of Tibetan Sherpa's and made an extensive exploration
of my psyche!
I have been seeing a therapist for the past year or so, and I have
desperately tried to explain what is going on inside my mind but I
couldn't. Now, thanks to you, I have some important
insight that will make a huge difference in my life!
-- David
Mike...
I would like to thank you for your absolutely superb book!
What I liked about it most is how you take care of the social coward
and take him by the hand to show him new perspectives, plus insight
into the mechanisms that hold him off of being successful with
women.
That whole idea of "toxic" shame is simple gorgeous, and I have seen
nothing like it yet on the internet. The stuff you write
about, these feelings of guilt. Man, that's just ME!
It's like you're holding a mirror in front of my eyes!!!
Mastery comes to those that seek it! Therefore
I'm going to take myself more to all kinds of social events and
train my skills.
Thanks again Mike for your personal consultation... this is
something that definitely goes beyond merely reading books!
The result of obscured shame is usually the type of problem that I
was cursed with during much of my teens and 20's... fear of
rejection. As a man, to have one's uncertain but
authentic romantic advances rejected is to suffer a spectacular,
life-altering humiliation that stabs at the very heart of your soul.
Fear of being rejected by a woman is a deeply paralyzing fear that
can actually be disabling for many of us over-thinking sort of guys.
It can make it impossible to think, talk, act and sometimes even
MOVE when an opportunity to chat up some chick presents itself.
The frustration is indescribable... how can you get within a mile of
charming a woman or getting her phone number if you can't even bring
yourself to say something to her!
Even worse comes the "downer" later that evening when your mind
begins to replay the failed chance like an evil TiVo, and the rage
begins to creep in. What causes such crippling dread in
the first place? You may be surprised to learn that you
actually picked up a lot of this shyness problem from other men, and
that this resulting fear of being rejected only "lights up" in the presence of women.
That's right, like a beaten dog you've learned that your place is to
linger around the fringes of the pack, and when you get too close to
women whom you sense are the "property" of the alphas you begin to
get a little nervous! These type of self-defeating
impressions are very subliminal and hide way in the back of your
consciousness, and that's exactly why they have so much power!
Working below the level of ordinary awareness, your negative
self-respect waits for the familiar stimulus of a possible play at
hand to begin sending up its devastating tendrils of cock-blocking
fear.
Rejection
paranoia can be a tough psychological nut to crack, but I've found
that healing can begin with even just a simple understanding of what
it is that women find attractive in men, and then working to fit
yourself into that pattern as much as possible. Remember
though that it's not just about how a guy looks, but rather how his
behavior communicates his status. Women walk around all
day long reading these silent signals coming from men.
They use their intuitions to file us into different mental
compartments... THE FUNNY BOY – THE OLD FLIRT – THE NICE GUY –
THE SEXY PRICK – THE *HOT* BUT TOO YOUNG (or OLD) GUY – THE GOOD BUDDY
TYPE, etc. etc.
In my book, I've developed a method of attracting and meeting women
that's more like fishing than hunting... you learn how to turn
yourself into the best bait possible and then work all the
interested nibbles that come sauntering by. You see,
women beckon men whom they are interested in by applying subtle
visual signals designed to filter for a guy who 'gets it'.
Then they simply invite his approach. You need to become
this type of guy
who frequently gets beckoned! My low pressure method of
attracting attention to yourself makes it dozens of times safer for
your fragile ego to operate, and dispels one of the major support
columns of your personal tower of fear... the unknown. ("...what's she
thinking about me?"...)
Create the perfect High Status Male Attitude for yourself and see
immediate improvement in your ability to attract women. When they're up in your grill with a big grin on their face...
it's Game On baby!
Learn how to make
fantastic first impressions in less than 3
minutes. Converse with a purpose and get the date or
phone number that you're seeking. Know when to say exactly the right
thing at the right moment... a plan that guarantees NO senseless
blathering!
Learn how to manage the
shame-fueled anger and stubbornness that
prevents you from developing long-term intimate relationships with
women.
Fantastic!
You've nailed it sir... your book shines with the bright light of
profound TRUTH!
I have
been totally useless romantically all my life... never ending up
with any of the girls that I was attracted to, only the ones who
would put up with my pathetic low status male ways.
As a result of reading your book, I realized that I just needed to
make a few adjustments to my behavior and everything to start
falling into place.
And I've looked at a lot of other bullshit and they are all
clearly sub-standard ways of imitating high status male behavior,
which you explain so beautifully how to implement in your great
book, Without Embarrassment.
Cheers from down under!
-- Owen
Mike,
Mike, you've changed me man! Just from reading the first
chapter alone I've gained tremendous confidence, and that confidence
has translated into a hot 21 year old chick that I have
recently impressed the hell out of!
You are the best and you speak the truth Mike. I sure hope you
write more books in the future, because this book speaks to my very
soul. So much insight!
Highly intelligent guys sometimes mess up
bad when it comes to
dealing with women because they discount emotion and feelings as
unimportant. They believe logic and reason must rule
over emotion – that emotions are foolish and should be contained by
the more powerful intellect. With this sort of attitude
however, showing off any sort of deep emotion soon becomes too "embarrassing"
for them, and this makes it tough for these types of men to access
their true self. It places intelligent men on an
entirely different playing field than the one on which most women
reside, and this limits their social opportunities... to say the
least!
Unfortunately, humans are not thinking creatures who merely feel,
they are feeling creatures who happen to know how to
think... and
that is a major difference!
Intellect
has its place in the game of attraction and seduction of course, but
this contest unfolds mainly in the arena of feelings and passions.
Here's the deal... common sense doesn't work when it comes to gaming
women – you need to learn how to use your intellect cleverly instead
of overtly by coming on more like an intriguing animalthan a
know-it-all nerd! Until you learn to let go and
re-discover your own emotional life, it will be hard for you to fake
the kinds of thoughts and feelings that she wants to plug into. You
can't give out candy bars that you don't own!
Remember, it's only after you've discovered an emotional connection
with a woman that your glittering intellect will begin to appear
sexy to her. Then you can go back to wearing your
propeller cap with pride... and she'll probably think it's soooo
cute!
Learn how to spark-up
chemistry on demand. I'll show
you a unique way to communicate directly into a woman's subconscious
mind by reading the way in which she turns her eyes when you ask her
a question, and then modifying your choice of words based on what
you see to make a subtle connection with her. Sneaky but
effective!
When you approach a woman in the manner that I show you, you'll
slide right up against the reactive portion of her mind... right
where all the very best first impressions are made!
Get her
daydreaming about you when you're not around.
This is an essential but little understood aspect of seduction. People fall in love when they're alone with their own thoughts and
fantasies. I'll show you how to harness this little
understood phenomenon.
I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you
have done. Your book has given me a new found optimism that I
may one day find true happiness again and be able to have satisfying
relationships with women that I find attractive... and who actually
find me attractive!
I'm 28 years old, and the lack of meaningful experiences with women
has definitely taken a severe toll on my emotional well being.
It's made me spend some of what should have been the best years of
my life in serious despair. There are a lot of
lonely people like me in the world, what you are doing to help us is
very much appreciated.
I honestly feel that the decision to buy your book may have saved my
life!
Major props to you friend,
-- Ron
Your advice on fear and shame is worth so much more than the price
on this e-book. I am transforming before my own eyes...
and I can't do anything to stop it! I don't want to stop it! ;-)
Thanks Mike!
-- Rick
MAKE YOUR ESCAPE FROM SHY GUY HELL
It's important for you to know that the book I'm hoping you'll soon
be ordering is not the work of some highly-degreed research
psychologist or the fruit of some grad-school project.
It comes straight from the heart of an ex-double strength nerd who
needed to figure this stuff out for himself in order to save his own
life. I think that if you can connect with my story,
then my solutions should ring true for you as well.
The things I am about to show you in Without Embarrassment
will improve your odds of successfully making a connection at every
step along the way from the moment a girl first catches your eye to
actually turning her into your loving sexual partner.
Hopefully, I can convince you that your own romantic possibilities
are limited only by your imagination and desire! Too
many guys get fixated on a particular girl and their mission becomes
to land her alone to the exclusion of all other women, and this is a
lousy way to approach The Grand Adventure. Now you don't
have to! My ultimate goal, of course, is to expand your
options exponentially and have you making up for wasted time lost in
shy-guy hell after only a few hours of study. A big job?
Perhaps, but one I'm hoping you'll love sinking your teeth into!
Never again be threatened with the fear of rejection – never again
stand by helplessly while your brain blanks out at the worst
possible moment. Upload my "social coward's" system into
your noggin instead, and immediately begin celebrating a new-found
ability to take action whenever you wish to and however you please...
Without Embarrassment!
Break the destructive cycle of rejection, self-castigation,
over-thinking and other self-defeating behaviors that are holding
you down.
Kiss her like she's never been kissed before! The
critical First Kiss seals the deal and sets you on a
glideslope to the bedroom if you do it right... otherwise it can
become the ultimate deal breaker. Learn a masterful
how-to technique that will knock her panties off, and learn exactly
WHEN to use it!
Give a woman the greatest sexual thrill-ride of her life with my
unique Sensory Provocation Technique! You haven't read
this one in any dusty Kama Sutra manual because I made it up myself
to take advantage of some of the latest ideas in the field of cognitive manipulation.
No doubt this is the ultimate mind fuck... and one that she will
come to beg you for time and
again!
Stop
Being Friends
with Women, and Start Getting Laid!
The most important skill any man can possess is the ability to
know when and how to approach a woman with romantic intent.
Humans negotiate closeness with conversation -- both verbal and
especially non-verbal. You must know how to display
courage and connectedness in order to capture the romantic interest
of women, or you are broadcasting on the wrong frequency.
Rejection
paranoia can be a tough psychological nut to crack, but I've found
that healing can begin with even just a simple understanding of what
it is that women find attractive in men, and then working to fit
yourself into that pattern as much as possible. Remember
though that it's not just about how a guy looks, but rather how his
behavior communicates his status. Women walk around all
day long reading these silent signals coming from men.
They use their intuitions to file us into different mental
compartments... THE FUNNY BOY – THE OLD FLIRT – THE NICE GUY –
THE SEXY PRICK – THE *HOT* BUT TOO YOUNG (or OLD) GUY – THE GOOD BUDDY
TYPE, etc. etc.
Intellect
has its place in the game of attraction and seduction of course, but
this contest unfolds mainly in the arena of feelings and passions.
Here's the deal... common sense doesn't work when it comes to gaming
women – you need to learn how to use your intellect cleverly instead
of overtly by coming on more like an intriguing animal than a
know-it-all nerd! Until you learn to let go and
re-discover your own emotional life, it will be hard for you to fake
the kinds of thoughts and feelings that she wants to plug into. You
can't give out candy bars that you don't own!
