No More Ego-Crushing, Zero-sum struggling for him...

Mike...

After 15-odd years of dating experience, your book brought to my attention concepts I had as-of-yet only intuitively grasped from merciless beatings in the dating jungle!

You're absolutely right though... a man's inner game is central to everything.   Until you are ready to drop the bitterness, resentment and self pity -- and emotionally accept your role as a dominant man in the world of women -- you are toast, PERIOD.  Even if you happen to be a Tom Cruise look-alike!

Your book has put me on firmer ground and is helping me take my game to a level where it truly is just that - an enjoyable game instead of an ego-crushing, zero-sum struggle.  Thanks much!

-- Grant
Vancouver, Canada
 



It should get 6 stars!

Since I'm not shy, I had some doubts about whether this book would be helpful to me, because the title implied it was geared towards shy people.   Actually the book helps one develop charisma and the personality type that attracts women as well as friends.  "Attitude" entails more than self confidence, and Mike shows you how to be the kind of person who people enjoy having around.

The book is very honest, almost brutally so.  The author doesn't brag about his conquests, but admits his failures and shows you how he dealt with them.

The book is huge and has a lot of information and detail.  I went to an all-boys high school so I did not get a chance to learn any dating skills or how to deal with the opposite sex, so I did find the book especially useful in improving my social skills.  I've read it twice already because there is so much to absorb!

Thank you Mike Pilinski...!

-- Anonymous
(from a book blog somewhere)


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SHAME ON YOU

You look up and see a girl.  She's your type.  You lock eyes for a moment, frozen... like a pair of deer caught in each other's headlights. What do you do?   What do you say?  You're vaguely aware that there's a play possible here, but you're unable to speak a word.

Seconds grind by like hours.   She acknowledges you -- there's a mild curiosity in her eyes... waiting.  But you are rooted to the floor, mute.  You can feel the moment gurgling away like water down a sewer.  Something distracts her, she looks away… the train pulls out; she gets into a cab; the bell for class rings.   The moment vanishes like a ghost as if it had never existed in the first place.   But you will see it over and over again in your mind won't you?   Re-run a thousand times... fast forward, pause, reverse and slo-mo...

If you've ever known the agony of watching a chance encounter ripe with romantic possibility slip away while you stood by helplessly and watched, then you know all about the lowest moment in a man's life.   This fearful self cock-blocking is a major lifestyle problem which leaves otherwise capable and confident men socially dead in the water.   How can we manipulate the stock market to our advantage like ruthless sharks or baby down a 20 ton jetliner to a gentle landing with ease, but still manage to meltdown into a blob of blubbering baby-boys in the presence of some foxy chick?

Well, it happens because this particular and very powerful brand of fear is really a protective response to a deeply buried sense of shame.

That's right, by far the most devastating handicap that you can have when it comes to meeting women is what I call shame-bound affection needs.    Lacking the ability to accept the natural and normal desire to have people love you can also make it impossible to exhibit romantic interest towards others.    Why?   Because showing off such interest exposes what has come to be viewed by yourself as a shameful emotion – and after a while, this shame retreats into a protective shell of fear in order to keep itself from being revealed.   See, the mind shields itself from having a painful emotion provoked by blocking you from taking what it views as certain risky "triggering" behaviors.   The truly evil part about all this though is how it sets itself up on the sly over the course of years.  

You may know that shame and fear are your familiar companions today, but how many of you can actually trace how they got there?

Now, you may think that it's not really so bad to be ashamed to show your interest in women because then you're coming off as cool, right?   While there's some argument to be made that aloof is better than nervous and goofy, your act is transparent and you're likely being seen by most women as a shy, low status male anyway.   Don't ask me how, but women can smell the difference.   High status males demonstrate an interest in women who happen to catch their fancy (appropriate or otherwise), whereas low status males usually do not.

So your inability to take action immediately stamps you in a negative light... like it or not!

This sad state of affairs exists because low status males have been conditioned by other males (who dominate them in so many other aspects of their life) not to look at "their" women!   Sounds crazy, but it's true.

So you see, your shame-driven behaviors are always on exhibit and most likely they are a brew of social hemlock for you.   It's not merely that you have an inability to express a certain type of emotion because it's been shamed (i.e., affection) – it turns out that this particular emotion is one that's absolutely critical to be able to demonstrate in the presence of women!

For a guy, this situation is similar to a woman who is ashamed to get a new hairstyle, put on makeup or keep her body in shape.   The result of this kind of shame would be to eventually make her unattractive to most members of the opposite sex, right?   Having her visual presentation as a female shame-bound would therefore be the most life damaging "flavor" of female shame imaginable because of the resulting loneliness and isolation it would create in her life.

In a similar way, affection-based shame in men makes them appear weak and unattractive to females, so this is the worst type of emotion to have shame-bound for us.   Men will attempt to compensate for the pain created by living in this emotional vacuum with various chemical addictions or other crazy behaviors, but they'll only end up digging a deeper hole for themselves as their personality becomes increasingly more bizarre in the absence of normal love and affection.

Understanding and then controlling the shame / fear Beast is essential to establishing a functioning social life – nothing less will do!


The most important skill any man can possess is the ability to know when and how to approach a woman with romantic intent.   Humans negotiate closeness with conversation -- both verbal and especially non-verbal.   You must know how to display courage and connectedness in order to capture the romantic interest of women, or you are broadcasting on the wrong frequency.

My social cowards method for attracting women is not some silly bag of "pick-up-chicks-with-hypno-tricks" or a frantic game that expects you to play the numbers by hitting on every female in sight.   Without Embarrassment will teach you how to develop a gentle, seductive intelligence that an amazing number of women (some that you would never expect ) find absolutely charming!

 

Hello Mike,

I ordered your online book "Without Embarrassment" yesterday and I have gotten about half-way through it.  My reaction so far can be summed up in two words... Holy Shit!...

While reading the part on toxic shame, I couldn't believe how well what you wrote describes me.  I was shocked!  It was as though you hired a couple of Tibetan Sherpa's and made an extensive exploration of my psyche!

I have been seeing a therapist for the past year or so, and I have desperately tried to explain what is going on inside my mind but I couldn't.  Now, thanks to you, I have some important insight that will make a huge difference in my life!

-- David
 

   Mike...

I would like to thank you for your absolutely superb book!

What I liked about it most is how you take care of the social coward and take him by the hand to show him new perspectives, plus insight into the mechanisms that hold him off of being successful with women.

That whole idea of "toxic" shame is simple gorgeous, and I have seen nothing like it yet on the internet.  The stuff you write about, these feelings of guilt.  Man, that's just ME!  It's like you're holding a mirror in front of my eyes!!!

Mastery comes to those that seek it!  Therefore I'm going to take myself more to all kinds of social events and train my skills.

Thanks again Mike for your personal consultation... this is something that definitely goes beyond merely reading books!

Cheers,
-- Justin

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FEAR OF REJECTION: THE TRUE IRON CURTAIN

The result of obscured shame is usually the type of problem that I was cursed with during much of my teens and 20's... fear of rejection.   As a man, to have one's uncertain but authentic romantic advances rejected is to suffer a spectacular, life-altering humiliation that stabs at the very heart of your soul.  

Fear of being rejected by a woman is a deeply paralyzing fear that can actually be disabling for many of us over-thinking sort of guys.   It can make it impossible to think, talk, act and sometimes even MOVE when an opportunity to chat up some chick presents itself.   The frustration is indescribable... how can you get within a mile of charming a woman or getting her phone number if you can't even bring yourself to say something to her!

Even worse comes the "downer" later that evening when your mind begins to replay the failed chance like an evil TiVo, and the rage begins to creep in.   What causes such crippling dread in the first place?   You may be surprised to learn that you actually picked up a lot of this shyness problem from other men, and that this resulting fear of being rejected only "lights up" in the presence of women.   That's right, like a beaten dog you've learned that your place is to linger around the fringes of the pack, and when you get too close to women whom you sense are the "property" of the alphas you begin to get a little nervous!   These type of self-defeating impressions are very subliminal and hide way in the back of your consciousness, and that's exactly why they have so much power!   Working below the level of ordinary awareness, your negative self-respect waits for the familiar stimulus of a possible play at hand to begin sending up its devastating tendrils of cock-blocking fear.

Rejection paranoia can be a tough psychological nut to crack, but I've found that healing can begin with even just a simple understanding of what it is that women find attractive in men, and then working to fit yourself into that pattern as much as possible.   Remember though that it's not just about how a guy looks, but rather how his behavior communicates his status.   Women walk around all day long reading these silent signals coming from men.   They use their intuitions to file us into different mental compartments... THE FUNNY BOY – THE OLD FLIRT – THE NICE GUY – THE SEXY PRICK – THE *HOT* BUT TOO YOUNG (or OLD) GUY – THE GOOD BUDDY TYPE, etc. etc.

In my book, I've developed a method of attracting and meeting women that's more like fishing than hunting... you learn how to turn yourself into the best bait possible and then work all the interested nibbles that come sauntering by.  You see, women beckon men whom they are interested in by applying subtle visual signals designed to filter for a guy who 'gets it'.   Then they simply invite his approach. You need to become this type of guy who frequently gets beckoned!   My low pressure method of attracting attention to yourself makes it dozens of times safer for your fragile ego to operate, and dispels one of the major support columns of your personal tower of fear... the unknown. ("...what's she thinking about me?"...)


Create the perfect High Status Male Attitude for yourself and see immediate improvement in your ability to attract women.  When they're up in your grill with a big grin on their face... it's Game On baby!

Learn how to make fantastic first impressions in less than 3 minutes.   Converse with a purpose and get the date or phone number that you're seeking. Know when to say exactly the right thing at the right moment... a plan that guarantees NO senseless blathering!

Learn how to manage the shame-fueled anger and stubbornness that prevents you from developing long-term intimate relationships with women.

 

Fantastic!  You've nailed it sir... your book shines with the bright light of profound TRUTH!

I have been totally useless romantically all my life... never ending up with any of the girls that I was attracted to, only the ones who would put up with my pathetic low status male ways.

As a result of reading your book, I realized that I just needed to make a few adjustments to my behavior and everything to start falling into place.

And I've looked at a lot of other bullshit and they are all clearly sub-standard ways of imitating high status male behavior, which you explain so beautifully how to implement in your great book, Without Embarrassment.

Cheers from down under!
-- Owen


Mike,

Mike, you've changed me man!   Just from reading the first chapter alone I've gained tremendous confidence, and that confidence has translated into a hot 21 year old chick that I have recently impressed the hell out of!

You are the best and you speak the truth Mike.  I sure hope you write more books in the future, because this book speaks to my very soul.  So much insight!

-- Robert

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INTELLIGENT GUYS vs. HUMAN NATURE

Highly intelligent guys sometimes mess up bad when it comes to dealing with women because they discount emotion and feelings as unimportant.   They believe logic and reason must rule over emotion – that emotions are foolish and should be contained by the more powerful intellect.   With this sort of attitude however, showing off any sort of deep emotion soon becomes too "embarrassing" for them, and this makes it tough for these types of men to access their true self.   It places intelligent men on an entirely different playing field than the one on which most women reside, and this limits their social opportunities... to say the least!

Unfortunately, humans are not thinking creatures who merely feel, they are feeling creatures who happen to know how to think... and that is a major difference!

Intellect has its place in the game of attraction and seduction of course, but this contest unfolds mainly in the arena of feelings and passions.   Here's the deal... common sense doesn't work when it comes to gaming women – you need to learn how to use your intellect cleverly instead of overtly by coming on more like an intriguing animal than a know-it-all nerd!   Until you learn to let go and re-discover your own emotional life, it will be hard for you to fake the kinds of thoughts and feelings that she wants to plug into.  You can't give out candy bars that you don't own!

Remember, it's only after you've discovered an emotional connection with a woman that your glittering intellect will begin to appear sexy to her.   Then you can go back to wearing your propeller cap with pride... and she'll probably think it's soooo cute!


Learn how to spark-up chemistry on demand.   I'll show you a unique way to communicate directly into a woman's subconscious mind by reading the way in which she turns her eyes when you ask her a question, and then modifying your choice of words based on what you see to make a subtle connection with her.   Sneaky but effective!

When you approach a woman in the manner that I show you, you'll slide right up against the reactive portion of her mind... right where all the very best first impressions are made!

Get her daydreaming about you when you're not around.   This is an essential but little understood aspect of seduction.  People fall in love when they're alone with their own thoughts and fantasies.  I'll show you how to harness this little understood phenomenon.

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Mike,

I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you have done.  Your book has given me a new found optimism that I may one day find true happiness again and be able to have satisfying relationships with women that I find attractive... and who actually find me attractive!

I'm 28 years old, and the lack of meaningful experiences with women has definitely taken a severe toll on my emotional well being.   It's made me spend some of what should have been the best years of my life in serious despair.   There are a lot of lonely people like me in the world, what you are doing to help us is very much appreciated.

I honestly feel that the decision to buy your book may have saved my life!

Major props to you friend,

-- Ron


Your advice on fear and shame is worth so much more than the price on this e-book.  I am transforming before my own eyes... and I can't do anything to stop it!
I don't want to stop it!   ;-)

Thanks Mike!

-- Rick

MAKE YOUR ESCAPE FROM SHY GUY HELL

It's important for you to know that the book I'm hoping you'll soon be ordering is not the work of some highly-degreed research psychologist or the fruit of some grad-school project.   It comes straight from the heart of an ex-double strength nerd who needed to figure this stuff out for himself in order to save his own life.   I think that if you can connect with my story, then my solutions should ring true for you as well.

The things I am about to show you in Without Embarrassment will improve your odds of successfully making a connection at every step along the way from the moment a girl first catches your eye to actually turning her into your loving sexual partner.   Hopefully, I can convince you that your own romantic possibilities are limited only by your imagination and desire!   Too many guys get fixated on a particular girl and their mission becomes to land her alone to the exclusion of all other women, and this is a lousy way to approach The Grand Adventure.   Now you don't have to!   My ultimate goal, of course, is to expand your options exponentially and have you making up for wasted time lost in shy-guy hell after only a few hours of study.   A big job?   Perhaps, but one I'm hoping you'll love sinking your teeth into!

Never again be threatened with the fear of rejection – never again stand by helplessly while your brain blanks out at the worst possible moment.   Upload my "social coward's" system into your noggin instead, and immediately begin celebrating a new-found ability to take action whenever you wish to and however you please... Without Embarrassment!


Break the destructive cycle of rejection, self-castigation, over-thinking and other self-defeating behaviors that are holding you down.

Kiss her like she's never been kissed before!   The critical First Kiss seals the deal and sets you on a glideslope to the bedroom if you do it right... otherwise it can become the ultimate deal breaker.   Learn a masterful how-to technique that will knock her panties off, and learn exactly WHEN to use it!

Give a woman the greatest sexual thrill-ride of her life with my unique Sensory Provocation Technique!   You haven't read this one in any dusty Kama Sutra manual because I made it up myself to take advantage of some of the latest ideas in the field of cognitive manipulation.   No doubt this is the ultimate mind fuck... and one that she will come to beg you for time and again!


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