Ten Tips For Picking Up Strippers

Ten Tips For Picking Up Strippers

By Dean Cortez
Author of The Secrets of Strip Club Seduction

Strip clubs are one my favorite places to pick up women.   I know, I know... but just consider the logistics: you're surrounded by gorgeous, scantily clad babes, the alcohol is flowing, every element of the environment seems designed for seduction from the music to the lighting...

And every one of those hotties is eager to talk to YOU!

Of course, most guys who set foot inside strip clubs are simply content to be customers (aka, marks)... forking over their cash and dreams for pointless lap dances and superficial conversations with women who view them as little more than human ATM machines.

The seducer, the pickup artist if you will, thinks differently.  He views strip clubs as target-rich environments filled with sexy, available women.  These are also great places to hone your skills and become comfortable flirting with 9's and 10's in regular settings.

Now, are strippers simply trying to separate you from the contents of your wallet?  They are-at first of course, it's their job.  But you can use certain clever tactics to flip the script, cause them to stop perceiving you as a customer, and make them play YOUR game instead of playing theirs.

You can build thrilling and genuine connections, collect phone numbers, and set up dates that should lead to sex eventually depending on your skills at escalating -- just as you would at a bar.  Strippers aren't the unattainable goddesses that most guys assume they are.  They're just women.  It all comes down to knowing how to break through their "club attitude", connect with them on a real level, and get them to feel genuine curiosity and attraction towards you.

Here are my Top Ten Tips for strip club success:

1. Go in there with the proper mindset.  When you've got game, you know you're way more interesting and confident than 99% of the customers who come to the place.  Strippers spend most of their shift having tedious conversations with lame, predictable men.  Once you've demonstrated otherwise, she'll be pleasantly surprised to meet you.

2. When you enter a gentleman's club, walk around with your head held high like you are totally at ease in this environment.  Never lurk or mill around as if you're unsure of where to sit.  Find a seat and settle in, preferably near a speaker. (I'll explain why in a moment.)  Do not sit in "pervert row" (this is what the girls call the seats directly in front of the stage.)

3. When a stripper approaches you, don't let her sit on your lap immediately, make her sit beside you.  "Whoa, easy there baby!  Have a seat next to me until we get to know each other a little better."  Having a cocky, playful attitude goes a long way in the strip club.  It conveys confidence and establishes that you understand her "game" and aren't going to follow her script.

Also, don't eagerly accept if she immediately offers you a dance.  Pretend like you didn't hear her correctly... act like you think she asked YOU to dance for HER.   Seriously, say something like, "Are you sure you can afford me?  I charge $100 for three songs, and no touching below the belt."

Then get her to sit down next to you, and ask her name.  She'll tell you her "dancer name." (Mercedes, Porsche, Destiny, etc.)  To this, give another playful response: "My dancer name is Hercules. I dance on Tuesdays and Thursdays at the club down the road, but I'll tell you what... if you tell me your real name I'll tell you mine. Just promise that you won't stalk me."  Say this playfully enough and you'll get her to laugh and tell her your real name.  Now you're starting the interaction on a genuine level and breaking her out of her "work" mind frame.  Strippers, like salesmen, have a canned "script" that they use on every customer.  When you control the interaction instead of answering her questions, she is unable to use her 'standard chump script' and has no choice but to be real with you.

Preferably you'll be sitting with her near a speaker ( I suggested you choose this area to sit in ) because now you can say, "let's move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you."  This shows you value what she has to say and gives things the feel like a "mini date"... you're "taking" her somewhere -- even if it is just to the other side of the room!

Physically leading a woman to another area is a great way to convey masculinity and confidence.

4. Keep your eyes off of her body and maintain eye contact.  Never comment on how good she looks.  If anything, call her cute. "You're cute, but I can tell there's more to you than meets the eye.  So tell me something about yourself that none of these customers would ever guess about you...."  Again, you're re-framing yourself as something beyond a regular customer by asking her to get more personal with you.  Powerful stuff psychologically.

5. Be respectful of her profession, never refer to it as "stripping".  The correct term is dancer.   Always say (or better yet, somehow imply) that you've dated dancers before in the past and try to demonstrate some familiarity with her profession.  Say, "It's too bad I swore off dancers because I can tell that you and I would really get along."  If she asks you "why don't you date dancers," just be vague-just tell her, "It's a long story, I'll tell you about it some other time."  Then ask her some other question that prompts her to keep thinking and sharing with you.

Another good line to use: "I know you must have some funny stories about working here.  My friend is a dancer in Las Vegas, and she told me some hilarious stories about the customers who come in these places?"

6. Befriend the staff: bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJs, managers, the owner, etc.  When you visit your favorite club, staff members should know you and greet you by name.  This gives you high social value (or "social proof") in the eyes of the dancers.  Again, you don't ever want to be seen as a typical customer whenever you can avoid it.

Befriending male staff members is really easy:  I'll bring a can of Red Bull over to the door man and say, "Here, I thought you could use this," and offer him the drink. Then I'll say, "you must be the envy of all your friends-hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women every night, and getting paid for it.   By the way, my name's Dean."

Nine times out of ten the door man will proceed to tell you why working at a strip club is anything but exciting and glamorous, yada-yada.  Have a few laughs with him, chat for a few minutes, then head back to your seat.  He knows you now, and he'll appreciate the gesture.  Every time you return from now on, he'll give you a warm welcome.  And don't forget to drop him a tip now and then for nothing in particular.  All people in jobs like this thrive on tips.

Befriending the manager or owner will give you even greater social proof.  To do this I'll ask my waitress to point out the person who is running the place.  Then I'll walk over to the manager-owner, introduce myself, and tell him this is one of my favorite clubs.  I'll say that I'm trying to find a good location for my buddy's upcoming bachelor party and I think this place would be perfect, ask how much it would cost to reserve a VIP room and several dancers for a few hours, etc.

I never actually come back for any bachelor party -- I just use this as an "ice breaker" to get to know the manager.  They're happy to talk to me about this.  If they ever ask me about the bachelor party in the future, I say with a smile, "well actually, it looks like we'll be throwing him a divorce party pretty soon.  Do you do those, too?"  This gets me off the hook on that little fib.

7. Don't forget that the girls are there to make money.  Go to the clubs on slow, mid-week nights when there aren't a lot of customers or large noisy groups of dudes vying for the dancer's attention.  When you sit down with a girl and you've been chatting for a little while, it's okay to buy a dance from her.  But a minute or two into the song I will tell her that she can sit back down, and then we just resume our conversation.  Who does such a thing?...

Guys who want to be thought of as NON-customers!

8. During any conversation apply the same tactics you would use on women in a bar.  Use techniques like Cold Reads and Hypotheticals.  Many examples of these are explained in my "Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction" e-book.  At all times, you will control the direction of the conversation and keep taking it to a deeper level, instead of trying to fill the time with pointless small talk.

9. One of the most effective ways to bond with a stripper is to get her to reveal her HIDDEN talent and/or grand future ambition.  And they've all got one, trust me!  Strippers are burned-out on guys who treat them like brainless sex objects and deeply appreciate it when you recognize them for being something more than that.  This conversational thread also gives you the opportunity to reveal YOUR special talents (whatever those may be) to her.  To most women, a guy with some kind of passion and ambition is far more attractive than the guy who just happens to have a lot of money.  Money boys tend to be assholes -- money cows to be milked.

10. As far as "closing", special tactics are necessary because strippers have a tendency to be total flakes, and this is where they usually will show it... right at the moment of truth.  Meeting up with her that same night needs to be your primary goal.  An essential part of seducing strippers is knowing two or three solid "go-to" spots that are within easy driving distance of the club.  Some cozy place where you can both chill when she gets off work.

Always "oversell" these places to her if you can.  For instance, instead of asking her to meet you at Joe Blow's bar, tell her this joint has "the most amazing appetizers" or "the most incredible jukebox", or that "your buddy Mike the bartender can make an awesome margarita."  This frames you as a guy who's somewhat "in the know" and isn't afraid to drop a few bucks on her right now, tonight.

You're a man who knows what he wants and goes after it!

The Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction is packed with dozens of my best techniques for breaking through barriers and creating fast connections with smokin' hot dancers.  The program also includes a video interview with a former strip club manager who ran some of the hottest spots in Las Vegas.  He pulls back the curtain to reveal his own personal insights on how best to score with the kind of "untouchable" strippers that most guys can only fantasize about.

Visit my website and grab this FREE 95-page e-book right now: "The S.W.A.T. Guide (Secret Weapons & Attraction Tactics)"  It's jam-packed with easy to learn techniques that will help you become massively confident around women.  You'll love it!

See you over by the loud speakers   ;-)
      Dean Cortez