Get Laid this Summer!

 

by Mike Pilinski

Author, Without Embarrassment and
She's Yours For The Taking

Is anyone else beside me starting to fuzz out over the endless flood of pseudo-science creeping into all this seduction stuff?   I hear talk of state changes and frames and modalities and I'm wondering if I'm trying to flirt with a cute chick anymore or land on the fucking moon!   Sheeesh!

Well I live in reality... and I try to develop strategies for guys that they can actually use in real life, even if you forgot to bring your slide ruler along with you that day.

Face it, many of you would be well served to pull one memorable encounter with hot chick out of this summer season, right?   And who knows where a summer romance can lead?   It's an opportunity to let your life play out like a spool of fishing line.   You know... see what happens!

In that spirit, let me show you how it was done in the good old days before everyone was walking around with an i-phone wedged up their ass...

1) Get on Her Radar Screen

The process of attraction always begins visually with significant eye contact.   So if you don't display an intriguing visual to catch a chick's attention, you'll never get a chance to charm her with your clever dialog.  This is seduction basics 101.   But why is being visually presentable 24/7 so important?   Because your best chances won't occur in situations like party bars and other venues where you are drunk and crushed together in close proximity and where supposedly meeting perfect strangers is an acceptable behavior.   No.   Your REAL chances to meet women always happen when you least expect them... out at the quick-store grabbing a six pack, vegging out at the laundromat, or during similar everyday scenarios where you need to get some non-verbal signal of interest going FIRST before you can realistically do anything.

Turn a corner and there She is, face-to-face with you... boom!

This means you have to ALWAYS be presenting an attractive look for women to dig in order to catch their interest.

So do whatever it takes to catch up to the currently accepted style in your neck of the woods.   Get some mags like GQ or Playboy or Maxim and scope out a look that's appropriate for your age and local culture.   Or go for the local look like they do in Texas and in the Southwest with the cowboy or biker appeal.   Take your sister (or your girl "friend") shopping to get a chick perspective on your look, and don't be afraid to spend some loot.   Invest in yourself.   Design a style that you're comfortable with and then get comfortable walking around in it.   Whatever you think it will take to get chicks in your world to shoot you "The Eye".

IMPORTANT: all things romantic flow from various manifestations of eye contact... this is the Holy Grail of hooking up!   A woman will always begin this pre-romantic feeling-out process by giving a guy who looks interesting to her "hello eyes".   You know?... that soul-penetrating look that lingers a beat longer than it should?   If there's nothing particular about the way you appear visually or seem to carry yourself however, you'll find these "hello looks" to be few and far between.   This means you'll always be faced with having to force the ball by going where you haven't been beckoned... and moving without a clear signal can be a frustrating way to play this game regardless of how big and brassy your balls are.

2) Act Immediately on the Slightest Signal

Speaking of which, when you get that signal you are On.   Don't hesitate and look for more signs from God because by the time all your self-doubts become untangled she'll be back in her car driving away.   Any time that a woman takes a liking to a guy she will put out ONE strong "move on me" signal, but here's the deal: you only get one.   If you hesitate, she'll read that as a rejection, close down on you, and quickly find some excuse to slip away.

Lingering eye contact means two things: 1) that she's interested, and 2) she's FREE! (or at the very least shopping around romantically...).

Learn not to think too much in these type of situations -- just Drop Dead and Smile (DDS).   "Drop dead" means you have to train yourself to immediately suppress all fidgety movements that betray low status male-type unease.   Your goal is always to come across like the sort of calm-and-collected guy who meets and interacts with women regularly.   In order to do this, you need to condition yourself to store this DDS reflex in the back of your mind at all times and display it whenever you encounter a cute chick.   No thinking allowed.   Reflexes only!

Continue to control yourself, but DO show her just a flash of a wide-eyed look.   The idea here is to make her think that she's momentarily stunned you... and that you are now struggling to remain calm.   You'll want to suggest this little blip to her in a NON-verbal way... which is the only way anything romantic counts as far as women are concerned.

Bing-bang this subtle action all happens in mere seconds, mind you.

After you've "mind-over-mattered" your jitters into remission, just say "hi".   Cool, relaxed and casual.   Smile without showing a lot of teeth and hold solid eye contact.   Don't try to be clever and force out a canned line you read in a book somewhere, because you're 90% likely to fuck it up and make an ass of yourself.   Nothing too cute is necessary or desired at this moment anyway.   It's just person-to-person contact, reasonable and sane.  That's all you're looking to project here.   Sanity and Safety.

The buttery smoothness with which you slide into this mode makes you immediately seem like an extroverted, approachable, fun guy... which is why I tell you to pound this DDS move into your skull until it becomes a reflex.  It's a simple move that makes an effective first impression, and as you know a rockin' first impression is ultra-critical to pull off correctly around women.

Once you've made casual contact, WATCH HER EYES.  Everything that has to do with women and men in a romantic sense flows from eye contact -- everything.   Scientists who study this stuff talk about the "copulatory gaze" over and over again when it comes to humans negotiating a mating event.   To some extent, eye contact is important during all phases of a relationship from first glance to that moment just before finally pumping your load deep into her.   Copulatory gazing in all its various manifestations is the pivot point around which everything romantic and sexual swings.   If she holds eye contact (and smiles even slightly) then you've got a live one on your hands!

3) Forget the Phone Number... Go for a "Soft" Social Commitment in the Near Future

In my new book I talk about creating customized cards for yourself that you can present to interesting women wherever you happen to find them, but comon'... you just ran out to make a beer run or get some gas and here you are.   What kind of goomba would have a pen on him ready to take down a phone number?   Piss on all that -- prethought-out moves will seem too canned in a situation like this where there hasn't been enough time to really connect beyond just a few words.   Instead, why not offer to meet her somewhere within the next 1-3 days at some common ground, some "happening" place?   A nightclub, a corner bar, a local event, bowling alley... whatever.   Whatever fits your particular style and surroundings and is a place that you would normally frequent.   Figure out what actual place this would be in advance, and have it stored away in your noggin always ready to use.

Then just invite (don't "ask" and especially don't beg!) her to meet you at XYZ Club this Friday night... they have great steamed clams or Buffalo wings, etc. (know something interesting or intriguing about the joint!).   Make it a safe, public venue that you would usually hang out at... somewhere she would certainly know about if she lives in the area.   Invite her to meet you there for a drink or a coffee or to watch you play softball. "You seem very charming (cool, fun-loving)" is all you really need to say.

Simple words spoken WHERE THEY ARE WELCOME will rock her world!

Inviting her out to a public party spot has the added benefit of making you seem like a social, happening guy -- rather than whining for her "magic 7 digits" like some porn-downloading jackoff. Tantalizing her to join your world as opposed to begging her to "save you" makes a big positive statement about your high male status. These impressions may be subliminal, but they are very important and psychologically powerful. This is how she gets a quick "read" on what type of guy you are -- and then decides if she would like to pursue you further.

Remember, the world rewards those who are in the arena fighting, and shits all over the beggars!

Exchange names, give her handshake trick (...no way, you'll have to get Without Embarrassment!) and say goodbye for now.   Think of this almost as if you're out recruiting stray chicks to pack the club -- as if you're in charge of setting the table for a buddy's bachelor party or something.   Mind tricks like this can help you stay motivated.

On "meet-up day", show up at the proscribed venue dressed stylish to your taste or "image", try to be in a good mood and have some cash in your wallet and a condom in your pocket.   Don't be a chump -- be a High Status Male and play logically, sensibly and for real.   When you see her again, introduce yourself and tell her your name in case she blanked-out and forgot it.   Women get nervous and their brains can vapor-lock just as easily as yours in a first-meet situation.   No problem... you get to be the cool, gracious, charming guy all over again!   Eight-ball in the side pocket baby.

Now... you have a 50-50 chance of at least knowing you'll have ONE good chance to hook-up with some chick you're already on a "hello" basis with that night.   The rest is up to chemistry and your continued success at connecting with her emotionally.   Use humor but don't be a clown.   Stay sober, give her deep looks (eye contact!) and touch her in a classy fashion whenever appropriate during brief bursts of closeness.   Build the passion gradually but steadily.   And escalate if she takes the bait... don't let the fire go out -- you don't get second chances with this stuff!

4) Be the Man with a Plan

A lot of you guys have a favorite haunt that you frequent on a certain day like clockwork, or a happy hour where you and your friends meet every Friday at 5 PM or whatever.   If that's the case then you should be spending the rest of the week looking to casually meet women wherever they happen to be... and point them there!   Make it into a hobby.   Hey, if only HALF of these stray women ever show up, you'll still have a shot at working someone you "already know" maybe every other week or so -- rather than having to work like a ditch-digger trying to meet someone new from 'hello' on up every time you go out.

Think of it like gathering leads to attend a sales meeting... offer a free admission and a free drink as a door-prize just for attending!   Use your head.   And who knows?... you may even get two hotties to show up looking for you on the same night!

Catfight anyone?  ;-)

Work this 3-step deal throughout the summer and you'll get laid at some point for sure.   Just remember to keep your standards reasonable and not ridiculous.